#1 thing to STOP doing — for more productivity and JOY
Have you noticed? There’s a gap between how ‘enlightened’ we are — and what we actually do.
There are things we do that we know sap our energy, waste time, and/or make us unhappy. (Anyone else guilty of checking email or Facebook multiple times a day?)
And there are things we DON’T do that we know would make us feel happier, more productive, and energized. (Regular exercise or meditation, anyone?)
We have lots of excuses…. But enough already! Life is short.
Here’s a simple way to close the gap right now:
6 Simple Steps to your own ‘#1 Thing’ to be More Productive and Joyful
1. Brainstorm: what’s the 1 thing you could STOP doing that would really make your life work better? (You already know, or have some some pretty good ideas…)
Examples:
- Checking email or FB multiple times a day;
- drinking a lot of soda;
- staying on the computer right up until bedtime;
- piling all the mail on the table ‘to go through later’
2. How might you express this as a practice? A practice is something you do regularly — daily or weekly etc. — because it makes your life work better. (You’re not committing to anything yet, jes’ thinkin’…)
Examples:
- Check email & FB just 3 times/day;
- drink bubbly water instead of soda;
- get off computer at least an hour before bed;
- toss all junk mail into recycling as it arrives
3. How can you make this practice very specific? Add times, places, dates — so it’s clear exactly what happens when. (Otherwise, it’s unlikely to happen at all.)
Examples:
- check email/FB for first time at 11 AM, then 3 PM & 8 PM;
- give away soda supply at work tomorrow and only buy bubbly water from now on;
- get off the computer by 10:30 PM each night;
- as bring mail in each day, sort into recycling/ bills/ misc., & toss junk into recycling bin
4. What structures or support will you need to make this happen?
Examples:
- sticky note on my computer with my ‘check email’ times;
- tell folks at work what I’m doing, and put all the sodas in my car tonight to take to work;
- set alarms on my computer or phone to get off by 10:30;
- tell my partner what I’m doing;
- put recycling bin under the table where I’ll see it;
- put sign up;
- make a daily checklist to chart my progress
5. What is your “noble intent” for this practice? (This is the big picture of why you’re doing it, what inspires you)
Examples:
- take control of my inbox and what I give my attention to;
- take control of my health and be a good example to my grandkids;
- create special ‘me time’ or ‘us time’ each night before bed;
- bring order and clarity to our household;
- turn my bedroom into sacred space
6. Will you commit to do this practice now? If yes, put in the structures you came up with so it happens! If no: how can you make it smaller, faster, easier so you’re willing to take it on? Even a little step in the right direction will free you up.
You can also follow the same steps to START a new practice that would make your life work better.
examples:
- Journal for 30 minutes on Tuesday evenings and Sunday mornings;
- start my day 5x/week with 45 minutes of stretching & exercise;
- meditate for 20 minutes each morning;
- do bills & paperwork every Monday afternoon at 4 while I listen to great music.
- do 1 thing I’ve been putting off each Thursday morning before I do anything else
I teach this simple strategy to my private clients and participants in my Grow Your Dreams Intensive, and use it myself – this week I’m STOPPING staying on the computer late (off by 10 PM) and STARTING journaling twice a week (Tues. and Sunday). It really makes a difference!
Love to hear what YOU think; please comment below and I’ll reply.
Love and light,
Pamela

July 13th, 2011 at 7:14 am
Those are such great tips!! I’m guilty of all of those things…thanks for sharing this with us!
July 13th, 2011 at 8:08 am
I like the simple examples and the way you set up the steps. Bravo!
July 13th, 2011 at 4:21 pm
Pamela,
Are you a little bird sitting on my shoulder watching everything I do? HA! You nailed me.
Good news. I am willing to change.
Linda
July 15th, 2011 at 12:20 am
Pamela,
Just a week ago I told someone about some habits I have that I know are counterproductive. During the week I have successfully begun to notice when I’m doing them and STOP. This morning I realized that I was using the radio as a distraction from noticing when I was wasting time. I believe I noticed the radio thing because I started breaking the first habit. When I read your email this eve, I smiled at the synchronicity. Thanks. Love, David S
July 17th, 2011 at 4:15 pm
You’re welcome, Libby! Are you willing to say what you’ll STOP doing? (And what you’ll START adding, if you’re doing that? I’d love to hear and it would inspire others.
July 17th, 2011 at 4:16 pm
Thanks for the positive feedback, Jane. Have you followed the steps to say what you’ll STOP doing? Love to hear how it’s going if you have…
July 17th, 2011 at 4:20 pm
It’s funny, Linda — so many of us (particularly conscious, heart-based solopreneurs) seem to be ‘guilty’ of these habits that really don’t support us or our work. Glad you’re willing to change (and not surprised — you’re all ABOUT change!).
What are you willing to commit to? I’d love to hear.
July 17th, 2011 at 4:21 pm
David, I love this synchronicity! We’re really on the same wavelength, aren’t we…
July 24th, 2011 at 1:11 pm
Pam,
I really like this: it’s concrete, applicable, simple. A really good way to close the gaps we all have between our intentions, aspirations, ideals and the reality of how our days seem to turn out over and over again.
I was pleased to find that I scored ok on your initial checklist: I am not addicted to email or FB or my computer in general. (In fact, I think my problem is more on the HATE end of these love-hate relationships.) I also exercise regularly and meditate daily.
But your 6-step process helped me come up with a new intention: to make sure I get in a stint of reading during the middle of the day, for at least 20-30 minutes every day. I have several creative projects on the back burners right now, and I’m chipping away at them with the reading time I get first thing in the morning and last thing at night, but I’ve been aware of a fear and sadness about how it’s not enough to really pursue them with the zest I feel for them.
I’m actually aiming toward creating a much bigger space for these projects in each day, but I see the initial 20-30 minute period as something I can realistically commit to right now. I’m hoping it’s the chink in the armor, the place to plant my wedge. I feel like my days are actually well-spent, and that’s part of what makes it so hard to find or create this free time for my creative projects. But if I don’t do something NOW, it’s just a wish, a dissatisfaction, a creative itch.
I’ll keep you posted. Thanks for the nudge.
love, dave